Sunday, August 21, 2011


Video Game Violence
Samantha Ellis
Kaplan University
CM226-03
Professor Becker
August 18, 2010


Abstract
With all the violence in the world today, we should all be wondering what we can do to help put a stop to it all. We can start with monitoring the violence that our children are subjected to on a daily basis. Video games teach our children violence, and the earlier they are allowed to view and play this material, the more likely they are to be aggressive as an adult. Violent video games do more harm than good, to our young children.
It seems like today’s children are dependent of video game entertainment. If they were addicted to the cute little learning games, all would be well. Unfortunately, that is not the case. Kids today spend their afternoons shooting, killing, stabbing, blowing up, and running over men, women, children, and even law enforcement. What is this teaching them about our society? What long term effects can viewing this type of media have on our impressionable children?
Video game violence is harmful for our children, for the most part because it can lead them to believe that hurting living things is acceptable. These types of games teach them that it is alright to disrespect authority figures. Worst of all it completely desensitizes and takes away their innocence. Children should not be subjected to seeing blood and gore on a daily basis, much less be the mastermind behind the carnage. It is no wonder that the youth is so ready to enlist in the ARMY, and its affiliates. They had been doing it for years already, in their minds, what is the difference? If they had not been subjected to the violence so early, they would know the difference. Real death and real war is not a game, and should be treated as such.
            There is so much controversy surrounding video games, but the most brought up topic with parents is that violent video games are bad for children. Yes they can be acceptable for older more mature teens and adults; not acceptable or younger more sensitive teens and children. It is our jobs as parents to monitor what they do, and from what I am seeing and hearing, we are lacking in that department.
After a little research myself, conducted using Facebook, parents were asked what they thought about violent video games and what age they would allow their children to play them. Surprisingly, many of them did not care too much about the subject stating that, “If you feel its ok for your son to play tackle football at age nine, then violent video games are probably ok too(Garland, 2010).” Another mom had this to say, “I personally don't think video games have an effect on how violent the child is cause they see so much violence on a daily basis already even on cartoons (Hunter, 2010).”
This kind of thinking is unacceptable. Violent video games are not the same as football, though neither one really serve a greater purpose. Violence does affect the way a child views the world. Whether the violence they view is on a video game or in their household, it absolutely changes the way a child views certain things; whether we as parents realize it or not. Some parents mistakenly think it is going to make them tougher, less sensitive, like it will help them deal with issues later in life. They need to expand their minds, not learn new ways to hate. Learning to hate and kill is not going to help them later in life.
            Despite all the parents that did not care what their children watched or played, there were a lot of parents that were concerned about the violence stating that, “my girls are 10 and they don't play violent video games. I try to keep them away from as much violence as I can but their past has a lot to do with too (Hardy, 2010).” As discussed later in this paper, a lot of it depends on the individual themselves. This particular mom that talks about her girls past actually has very good reasoning, those girls are her step-children whose mother was shot in the head; they were only six. Cases like this are all too often. Those children have had a traumatic experience and witnessing the violence in the games would be detrimental to their mental health. Parents should care and be more aware, now more than ever, about the lessons and ideas that are planted in our children’s minds.
The violent games of today are so realistic, but the scary part is that it is getting all too familiar. Children today are not impressed with the violence; that is why the game companies are striving to make them more and more realistic. What happens when the games cannot get any more realistic? They are already addicted to the killing and the realism, but what will they do when they are no longer impressed with what they see? What do they do then to fulfill their killing needs? By allowing your child to view and partake in this type of violence, at a young age, is completely desensitizing and taking away their innocence. If you wouldn’t want them to witness something like that in real life, why would you buy them a game that shows them the dark side of life? There once was a time that a kid could see blood and freak out. Not with today’s children. They all think it is cool. When a kid hears about a robbery or shooting, they do not get scared, some of them even carry guns themselves. This has to come to an end, and it starts with us as parents.
Young children do not fully understand that what they can do in a game they cannot do in real life, where older teenagers and adults do. Video games when used correctly can be very beneficial. As parents we all try to make our kids happy, but sometimes being a little mean is what it takes to change their lives. All kids beg for the popular games, “But mom, Jimmy has it!” It is crucial not to give in and do what is best for your child. Whether they like it or not, that is all part of being a good parent. You cannot always be the good guy.
My brothers use to beg for games, and my step mother would always give in, afraid of making them mad. I think that this is copout, taking the easy way is not the most effective way. All Video games are labeled with a rating, just like with videos. They are there for a reason and should be treated with respect. Many States and countries are now and have been passing laws that prohibits the sale of certain “ultra-violent” games to minors unless they have adult permission. According to state legislature “Ultra-Violent” is defined as depicting serious injury to human beings in a manner that is especially heinous, atrocious or cruel. Assemblyman Leland Yee had a few things to say about it (2006):
“Unlike movies, where you passively watch violence, “ says Assemblyman Leland Yee, sponsor of the bill, “in a video game you are the active participant and making decisions on who to stab, main, burn or kill (2006).”
 Passing laws is a great place to start, but what good do they do if the parents just go and buy the games for them. If a parent purchases a sniper game for a child, when the game is for adults only, and the child goes on a shooting rampage, are the parents going to be charged as well as the clerk that sold the game? Of course not, but that is the problem. It does not matter how many laws are passed to keep children away from them if the parents themselves are not going to follow the rules.
So what age should you allow your children to view violent games? Thirteen is a good number; it marks the age where the child becomes a teenager. By this age most children are aware that games are only games, and that what you do in a game you cannot do in reality. But there are still always some exceptions. For example, first you should look at the rating system and familiarize yourself with it, if a game says for mature, ages 13+, and your child is 13, then the next thing you should probably ask yourself is, but are they mature? You should ask yourself if your child is very sensitive, because some games may be mentally harmful. You should definitely ask yourself if your child is an aggressive child. Naturally aggressive children can become violent when playing these violent games, why add fuel to the fire?
According to John Hughes, two Iowa State University psychologists, Craig Anderson and Brad Bushman claim that “violent video games increase aggressive behavior in children and young adults.” The article written by these two explain how in three recent school shootings, the shooters were “students who habitually played violent video games.” He explains how the Columbine shooters that killed 13 people, enjoyed playing a bloody video game called “Doom.” It is said that one of them even created another version of the game where there are more weapons and the victims are unable to fight back (Hughes, 2003). This is very scary, to that this is what is in the heads of today’s youth.
Games are meant to be fun, not meant to teach death. There is enough of that around us already, why not try to keep our games as fun as possible. So the question is; have we learned anything about video game violence? Are we more informed as to the extreme importance of the game rating system? These very graphic and violent video games are created amazingly, by mature adults, with mature adults as the intended consumer. Only a mature adult can full appreciate and understand the games that are being played. Mature adults know that it is only a game. The game rating system is in place for consumer safety and therefore should be respected and followed.
Parents you know you children best; if they are a naturally aggressive child, then maybe it is not the best idea to buy them that wrestling game that all the other kids have. If your children are sensitive, then maybe bloody games are not the best choice. If your child has threatened to kill someone, use your common sense and do not go out and buy them a sniper game. That kid does not need to learn how to aim. Pay attention to your children, and remember that games are games and not babysitters. Games are OK in moderation, but should not take the place of outdoor activity or social interaction. It is time to take back our parenthood. We created them; we should be the ones to teach them right from wrong. If we are encouraging violent games on them, then we too are teaching them violence.



References
Ellis, S. (2010) Face book Discussion. How do you feel about violent video games and what age do you think it is OK for children to play. Retrieved August 15, 2010 from Samantha’s Facebook Profile discussion. http://www.facebook.com/?ref=home#!/profile.php?id=100000201930233&v=wall&story_fbid=100285486699058
Hughes, J. 2003. Christian Science Monitor. Video game Violence isn’t harmless fun. Vol. 95 Issue 243, p9, 0p. Retrieved August 15, 2010 from http://web.ebscohost.com.kaplan.uah.edu/ehost/detail?vid=3&hid=11&sid=fc8713a2-1d96-49ef-8dbb-428ebf00368d%40sessionmgr14&bdata=JnNpdGU9ZWhvc3QtbGl2ZQ%3d%3d#db=aph&AN=11344625

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Deceased-Some of my old work...done in 2003 Published and copywrited

A shot to the head, a bullet through the heart....
One loud bang and your world is torn apart.....
They said you wouldn't do it, like no one even cared.....
But now that you are gone, everyone is sad and scared.......
You felt like a loner, you felt you were all alone.......
Your life will never change because now you are gone....
Magical thoughts and words in your head.....
But no one will hear them because now you are dead.....
No pictures were taken, No letters left to find......
Your soul is gone and no spirit left behind......
You'll never know love and how wonderful it feels....
Did no one ever tell you how fast sadness kills.....
You were so sad and all alone in your head......
You never knew how much you were loved until after you were dead.

Morbid Butterflie 2003 (2011)


I dedicate this poem to an old friend of mine who took his life a few months back, even though I wrote this many years ago,l it made me think of you....RIP James Burns.........


Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Take a look in the Mirror

Take a look in the mirror and what do you see......
     That monster looking back is you ...it is not me.

A shadow of yourself, the pieces got lost along the way......
     Wishing you'd pick them up, waiting for that day.

Blaming others for your dumb ass mistakes........
     realizing it is all your fault is all that it takes.

Speaking from experience, your world will crumble down.....
     On the bottom of your lies is where you will be found.

And to the ones to you who were always true.....
     Hold your breath and see which ones come to rescue you.



By: Morbid

No One Will Be There

One of these days you will open your eyes.......
      to realize your life is just a lie.
But no one will be there to save you from yourself......

That Holier than that thou bullshit you pull........
      will bring you down once the bullshit-o-meter is full.
But no one will be there to save you from yourself.......

Go Ahead and push away those who really care.....
     Make yourself believe that no one was there.
But no one will be there to save you from yourself.......

When your all alone with only yourself to blame.....
     Could have had me there, what a fucking shame.
But no one will be there to save you from yourself.......

Such an awesome person, brought down by fear......
     But no longer do I care, nor will i shed a tear.
No One will be there to save you from yourself........

And to those who put all their trust in you......
     Will be utterly disappointed when the day is through.
No one will be there to save you from yourself........

On your final day you wil realize you were wrong.....
     But it will no longer matter cause they all will be gone.
On that day no one will be there to save you from yourself..........



By: Morbid

Saturday, March 19, 2011

I've had it people!

I want start this off by first saying that I love my husband and my children! With that said....let me say what I really want to say before my brain literally snaps! Can I just ask, "What the hell is wrong with men?" For the past 5 years I have been with my husband. I have gotten up every morning and taken him to work....picked him up every afternoon....cooked and cleaned for him...washed, scratched, and massaged his back....gave him 2 healthy children....we have not spent a single day apart in 5 years. Besides him going to work or me going somewhere by myself we are together.  He has not one time left me to go hang out with a friend.....and trust me I have tried to get him out there! I just don't get it!

Before I met him you see I was working and doing my own thing...partying...a lot. Doing pretty much whatever I wanted. I had tons of friends to go and visit or that would come visit me. i have really never had to answer to anyone. From age 6 or 7 I was completely able to care for myself. When I wanted to do something I did it. I did not always make the right choices...I admit that. That is just part of learning! But the day I met my husband that all changed, and I was happy...so very happy. To have something once again that was mine. Someone who loved me and wanted to be there with me. I changed nearly everything for him. Stopped hanging out with most of my friends, stopped visiting family. Guess it is time to tell you that we are a mixed couple if you did not already know that.


Not that we had to stop seeing everyone because of that, it just made it easier, plus we were spending a lot of time together. When I found out I was pregnant with our first child it was roughly 6 months after we had met....we were engaged but not yet married. That happened 6 months after Mika was born, but the journey was a little rocky. I was starting to worry and stress. I was an only child, my mom was really not there, I was always by myself or with friends I did not know if I could be a wife and a mother, but I knew I had no choice but to give it a try. We got married had a great few months with our beautiful daughter when I found out that i was pregnant again. So here I am 1 yr and a half into our relationship 4 months into our marriage and now we have another one on the way. Now we were doing good. We did not need help from anyone, our kids had more than everything they needed. We did not have to ask for help with diapers or food, we were great parents. But I was still worried.

Everything was going great...we were the perfect happy family. ( Besides all of my invisible worrying) House...1 year old...8 months pregnant...then bam!  Found out my husband had been messing around with a woman or 2 or 3 at work. Not physically from what I know, but the rundown is for months they were texting each other, and not just texting while at work...he would spend and hour int he bathroom pretending to be shitting so that he could take naked pictures of himself and send them to her. This was all on the camera phone that he wanted so bad that I bought him for fathers day. Now remember I am 23 years old with a 1 year old and 8 months pregnant. And I had been taking him to and from work everyday. Getting up at 4:30 in the morning and loading the baby up to take him to be with her.

Now I was not clueless...I had noticed them walking out close together for a while. I would ask who she was..he would say he did not know. Then there was him spending all of that time in the bathroom. Come to find out that not only did they know each other but they had been working together for 2 years. She is his sewer at work. How funny is that. it took everything I had not to leave that night. You know I had to get up and take him to work the next morning with the baby and watch that woman walk past my car. It has been 3 years since that night and I still get up every morning and take him to work and watch that woman walk past my car...wondering but never knowing if I am a complete fucking idiot? I swear to you my heart rips out of my chest every morning. But i am suppose to be happy, and be a mother, and get my career going, oh did I mention on top of dealing with all of this I also managed to get a Associates degree in Website development In 2 years with a 3.8 GPA.

Do you know after all this shit I go through for this man, I can not even walk outside and play in the yard with the kids without him accusing me of being out there to stare at the neighbors. I am only writing all of this because I know there is no one left reading at this point. Anyways. Every time I leave the house he jumps on the computer to check all of my accounts to see who I have been taking to. But the nieghbors thing kills me, he is convinced that either I want to fuck them or they want to fuck me. It is funny because I have only talked to those people like 3 times int he year that we have lived here. Once their dog came in my yard and I grabbed it for them, once when they helped my step dad get unstuck from the snow (because my husband was standing there watching but not coming to help.) if you see your wife and her mother outside in the ice and snow trying to push a truck, wouldn't you go help? It is not my fault that they were outside and were nice enough to give us a hand!

I am about to loose it, I need a job but can't get one due to the fact that I am his only ride to and from work. with the economy if I go into an interview and say I can only be here this time till this time, I'm screwed. So I am trying to start my company which is websites and graphics but he is always complaining about me being on the computer, thinking I am talking to my ex and shit. So what do I do? I sit home bored out of my mind, get lost in the computer and cleaning and the kids. But for a person with ADD and extreme depression and anxiety. It is killing me, really. I need to be doing something...I need to talk to people.....I need to be creative and spontaneous...that is just me.

How can I do all of this and go through all of this for a man that thinks I am fucking everyone that walks around here? Why don't I just pack my shit up and go? Why don't I find someone better? I love him...I have no where to go but to my moms and that won't happen...I promised myself that my kids childhood would not be as mine was. Whatever what does it matter....no one ever listens to what I have to say anyway. That is why I have book bags and boxes full of thoughts that no one has ever heard. It's ok though I know I am great! When I am gone they will all know it too!

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Mika's First Day of School

So my oldest daughter (age 4), Mikaiya starts her first day of Head Start tomorrow, and I am freaking out about it. Know one knows this, but I know this! She has only ever stayed at my moms or my dads house, never away with people she does not know. I have trust issues when it comes to my kids, the way I see it, nothing can go wrong if I am there to prevent it. I know that is fucked up but who cares, this is my blog! I am excited for her because I know she is ready and excited about going, she can't wait to meet new friends and all that jazz. It is going to be awesome......for her. I am going to worry myself to death, hopefully I can get use to her being away from me all day, I still have Jr. (age 2) to keep me company.

I can not wai tto see how they act oce they are separated. Jr. is going to love it. He is such a momma's boy, he is going to love the one on one time with mommy. Mika is already asking if he can come to school with her though, and he is gonna get bored being with me all the time.

My hopes for tomorrow are that I get no calls from the school, she comes home happy, and that she wants to go back the next day. That is all I can hope for I guess. Oh yeah, and for her to say mommy I missed you when I pick her up, I think that would make it a successful first day. We will see what happens and how it goes. I know one thing is for sure I am going to be a complete basket case by the time I pick her up tomorrow! Have a wonderful evening.